Who doesn’t like food? Who doesn’t like love? Well unless you hate the world and want to dwell in a hole in the bottom of a deep pit then you probably love both. Food is a essential aspect of dating specially if you’ve opted out of the meat eating crowd. It can be a deal breaker and you can come across some hiccups when going out on date specially with non vegetarians.
Dating Non Vegetarians Problems
Dating a non vegetarian may pose some problems. For most part, you must first decide if you want someone who is a meat eater. If that’s fine with you then you may need to face some things that may have you scratching your head.
Here are some of the most common issues you may come across when dating someone who is not in the same boat as you are on being a vegetarian.
Being thought of as a elitist snob – A lot of people in your life may misunderstand your choice of foregoing meat. Going on a date with a non veggie can at times put you in this situation. Some carnivores or omnivores may think you’re someone who is a total elitist and a snob even if you’re totally not. For most part, not all meat eaters are that ignorant but some may be, so you have to be careful.
Some meat lovers will try to guilt trip you and say that they don’t have enough money to buy all those “fancy organic hard to cook tasteless vegetables”. You may encounter a super macho guy and he’ll tell you that veggies are just for chicks or a girl who says but “I love chicken and fish but I hate rabbit food… eeewwww”.
If your lucky enough to find an omnivore who respects you and later on becomes your boyfriend or girlfriend you may encounter some problems when meeting his or her parents and relatives. Hard core carnivore families may give you a quizzical look and say that you’re “too good” for their baby and that your future kids are all going to be probably all too skinny
Being forced to eat “just one bite” – It may be your first (or your fifteenth) date and your date is dying to find out if you would cave in. It’s a battle of the will. He or she may even try to sweetly and sneakily try put to food in your mouth by batting their eyelashes and picking up the fork and stabbing a piece of steak then offering it you. Some may employ all sorts of tactics just to make you down a piece of chicken. Others will try to order fish for you saying “It’s fish anyway, so it does not count right?”. Hello, a fish has eyes, heart and a gut, right? So IT IS an animal. You just want to scream and run but just try keep your cool.
Being asked weird questions why you are a vegetarian – “Are you a tree hugger?”, “Do you smoke or eat weed?”, “Do you feel weak since you don’t eat meat?” are just some of the questions you may encounter from a person who is totally clueless about shunning meat in your life. I’ve heard questions such as “Plants are alive too so do you feel guilty killing them?” and I go like “What have you been smoking dude?”. You may find yourself in situations where you make mental notes about the answers (you have already memorized) to questions that have been asked hundreds and hundreds of times. The common ones go like “Are you on a diet?”, “Are you sick or something?”, “Does your hair fall out?” to really weird ones like “Have you ever tried feeding your dog carrots?”, “Do you throw up or cry when passing by the meat section in the grocery store?” and “Do you have an altar for vegetables?”. Some people can get really nosy and disrespectful. They may judge you based on your eating preference. If your date starts asking questions you’re not comfortable to answer then ditch him or her and just say you have to go home and feed your Venus Fly Trap with his or her brain.
Your date likes rare steaks…. a lot… – Some vegetarians feel OK with seeing someone devour meat, some are not. But some non veggies can be down right inconsiderate. They would order a huge slab of RARE steak and cut the bloody piece of meat in front of you. If they just like eating such out of food preference and you don’t feel queasy about it then that’s fine, but if they’re doing it to make you feel awkward then this person is totally not for you.
You can date a carnivore, sure — so long as you both make a compromise. For example if you go out to dinner, you can go to a restaurant with a wide vegetarian selection but also has great meat options. If you’ve been going out for a long time then you can further layout ground rules about your chow options. For example, if you guys are hanging out in your place then he can eat meat but nothing too bloody and if you’re out with him then respect the food he eats. Respect is the key here.
People telling you that the food is vegetarian and when you start eating it it’s totally not – So you’e found this really great person to out with and he or she accepts you being a vegetarian but some what ignorant in some aspects of your eating habits. For example, he cooks up a “vegetarian” dinner but added some chicken stock to it. Chicken broth comes from chickens….. and yes even if its just the broth. Just let him know that and be nice.
Sometimes though, people out there can be totally sneaky. They will cook up or order something that looks totally “safe” for you. You eat and it hits you! It has bits of pork in it and not veggie-meat. Then they will laugh at your face because they thought that it’s such a funny joke. Don’t settle for people like this. Get out ASAP!
Educate them – Being a vegetarian should not limit your dating options. If you find some one who is funny, smart and loves your dogs then by all means go out with him or her even if this person chooses cheeseburger and fries for their lunch. You just need to let them know what being a vegetarian means to you and how you want to live your life. Tell them what being a vegetarian is like and what kind of food are real vegetarian friendly. Let them know that instant chicken ramen is not counted as vegetarian just because you don’t see any meat in it.
Meet a kindred spirit – Find someone else who is a vegetarian or knows you are and doesn’t have a problem with it. I joined an online dating site after reading a review of match.com and was able to choose someone who knew I was a veggie and was up for the idea of that.
Respect – This should come from both of you. Don’t try to convert him or her and he or she should not convert you. We know that being a vegetarian is healthy and gives you all the wonderful benefits but don’t try to shove this down the throat of the person you’re dating. It’s much like religion — don’t try to be all high and mighty. In the same way the other person should never play tricks on you to tempt you to eat meat. You can try to give him or her a taste of those delicious vegan muffins so that he can appreciate your side of the world.
Enjoy – Dating is all about those wonderful giddy feelings and eventually love. Try to enjoy the moment and don’t be overly critical about each other. If you guys would just nit-pick each other’s flaws then just quit seeing each other. Have fun together there’s a ton of things you can do together besides finding a vegetarian friendly restaurant.
So there, we know being a vegetarian has its ups and downs and that includes dating. Fear not and be strong. You can find a great person vegetarian or not. If you’re one of those lucky ones who has snagged a nice catch who loves you and respects your choices, then don’t let that person go. If you’re still trying to sift through the annoying bunch, keep your cool. You’ll fine some one worthy of you.